Life is in your hands

Are you one of these people who takes on everything? Whenever a friend or family member needs something you jump on board and do what you can to help out? This is actually a good quality to have, but you need to know where to draw the line! Don’t jump on board if you’re helping out so your friend can avoid something that frighten him/her or makes them uncomfortable. Be a true friend and help them help themselves. Let them face this fear and do what makes them uncomfortable, there’s way more value in that then when you do things for them. Also this will be a relief for you and your friend in the future, now your friend can handle this task on his/her own and you don’t have to. Make a priority of your own time and help out in the best way for your future and your friends and family’s future. Helping others are important, but help them in a way that will help them for a lifetime!

Excuse me Unskyld Meg Jeg Beklager Lo siento Waan ka xumahay There’s a million ways to apologize and it’s always appreciated. But why is it so hard? Why do our hands shake and voice tremble when we have to say "I’m sorry". Why is it that we all want to hear it but no body wants to say it. Everyone can mess up and make an complete fool of themselves and the one thing that saves you is the apology! Did you lie? Did you make a terrible mistake? Did you raise your voice to someone? Did you make an assumption that was wrong? Apologize!! Say I’m sorry! I messed up!  Please forgive me!!

Everything you think about everyday is what will be your life ... And here I am, on my way to a new apartment in the middle of the city. It will be smaller and more expensive but I will have freedom and  happy neighbors, and that is all that matters right now. For the last three years I've had screaming, paranoid crazy neighbors. And from the day I moved in here I've been looking for a way out. My first night in the apartment the son in the house was having a party, he was 17 years old and was home alone. The boys had a lot of music playing (LOUD) and they where throwing things on my living room window and looking at me from the outside. I had just moved in so I didn't have anything to cower the window with and I was feeling really uncomfortable. I let the landlords know what was going on and they made a call to the boy who started shouting and yelling before they left the house. After that the partying was going on every weekend because the parents left the house and...

How to live in a long distance relationship. Some say it can't be done, it will never work and that is true for them. It's not necessarily true for you, it definitely wasn't true for me. There are many differences in a long distance relationship and keep in mind that one of you where in holiday mode when you met. That being said most people are different on holiday and in everyday life, so if you are the one who was traveling at the time this relationship started you are the one that changes the most when the distance is greatest. So when the other person is getting upset with you and telling you you are different or that you have changed, that is probably true without you being aware that it is. When on a holiday ad in the presence of the person you want to be with everything is relaxed and sweet. You have all the time in the world and you are just enjoying this state of mind and not considering that this will change as soon as you get your butt back home. You also h...

What type of person are you, or what kind of person do you want to be? I ask myself this when I'm interacting with other people. Sometimes people come off as a little blurry so I don't really understand the person they are trying to display. They seem nice and gentle, but they are rough and hard in there voice. Some people are straight up what and who they show you, they don't have any secrets of sides they are trying to hide. Searching for something People are driven by a few things and the basic is certainty and uncertainty, seeking one or the other. You probably trying to figure out what drives you and it can be both, but at separate times. When your life is filled with uncertainty you are probably looking for something certain to hold on to. When life is straight forward and very secure you are probably looking for something uncertain to get your blood pumping and your heart racing. You need a balance in your life between the two to feel good and exited at the same...

I don't have  an english name for this bread, in Norway we call it "knekkebrød" translates to "breaking-bread" To make it you need: 100g sunflower seeds 100g sesame seeds 200g linseeds 200g oat grits  2 tablespoons of rye flour 1 teaspoon salt  5dl water 1 tablespoon coconut oil/fat Set the oven to 160 degrees celsius - hot air. Put all the dry items in a bowl and mix it. Use half and half cold and boiled water and let the coconut oil melt in the lunk warm water. Put the water with the oil into the bowl of dry items and stir it til its a soft porridge like mixture. Leave it to swell for 10 minutes. Take a paper covered plate and spread the mixture thin with a wet spatula. The mixture can get really sticky so you want to dip the spatula in water while spreading out the mixture. Use a pizza-cutter to "cut" the pieces before you start to cook it, then they are easier to cut later.  Put the trays (I cook 2 trays at the time) in t...

How is life supposed to be Life is supposed to be fabulous, and anyone telling you "life is supposed to be hard" or "life is a test" does not live a happy life filled with purpose and passion. Life is quite amazing, have you ever stopped to think about all the little pieces of magic that happens to you when you are in a good mood? Start noticing them. There's so much to enjoy in this life on this planet. We have the most amazing scenery and spectacular views, sunsets that can take your breath away. Have you ever tried to watch when a storm passes?  Watch the trees and the clouds next time, see how the trees and the plants play along and joins the storm in it's rage across the land. Everything s moving with it, whoever tries to resist will be taken down. Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to enjoy the storm and dance to it's notes. When a storm passes in your life,what do you do? Do you go on a hideout and wai...

Conditioning of the mind We all have conditioned minds and everyday we have an opportunity to change that conditioning. All you have to do is recognize your limiting belief, which is what your conditioned mind tells you you can not go beyond and change it. The preconditioning is there from a very young age. There was some grownup in your circle who told you over and over again "you can't do this" or "you are not good enough". Or it's the recurring events that leaves you to think in a certain way about it and that sticks to you. Look at an elephant.  A huge and massively strong animal, in the wild it's not scared of much, and if it gets scared it usually tries to scare whatever is scaring them by making a loud noise and storming towards it. In captivity the elephant has been conditioned to believe that a small rope or chain has the power keep it from running away. When the elephant is small it's tied up to a rope or chain around ...

Does it serve you? The best thing you can do for yourself is to surround yourself with good and positive people. Think about what you want out of life. Think about your dreams and goals. What serves you and what helps you to reach this ... Your goals should contain your financial goal, your relationship goal and your career goal. In every activity and in every habit ask yourself "does this serve me and my goals. Will this move me closer to reaching my goal?" These are the questions you should ask yourself for every interaction in your life. If you spend a lot of time and energy into reaching your goals, you don't want to tear everything down because of that one friend who leaves you feeling drained and fills your mind with negative emotions. The law of attraction works with your emotions and your actions, so you want to be inlined and in tuned. There has to be consistency in your actions and feelings. You get what you're feeling about, not so much what you're th...