Life is in your hands

Are you one of these people who takes on everything? Whenever a friend or family member needs something you jump on board and do what you can to help out? This is actually a good quality to have, but you need to know where to draw the line! Don’t jump on board if you’re helping out so your friend can avoid something that frighten him/her or makes them uncomfortable. Be a true friend and help them help themselves. Let them face this fear and do what makes them uncomfortable, there’s way more value in that then when you do things for them. Also this will be a relief for you and your friend in the future, now your friend can handle this task on his/her own and you don’t have to. Make a priority of your own time and help out in the best way for your future and your friends and family’s future. Helping others are important, but help them in a way that will help them for a lifetime!

Excuse me Unskyld Meg Jeg Beklager Lo siento Waan ka xumahay There’s a million ways to apologize and it’s always appreciated. But why is it so hard? Why do our hands shake and voice tremble when we have to say "I’m sorry". Why is it that we all want to hear it but no body wants to say it. Everyone can mess up and make an complete fool of themselves and the one thing that saves you is the apology! Did you lie? Did you make a terrible mistake? Did you raise your voice to someone? Did you make an assumption that was wrong? Apologize!! Say I’m sorry! I messed up!  Please forgive me!!

Everything you think about everyday is what will be your life ... And here I am, on my way to a new apartment in the middle of the city. It will be smaller and more expensive but I will have freedom and  happy neighbors, and that is all that matters right now. For the last three years I've had screaming, paranoid crazy neighbors. And from the day I moved in here I've been looking for a way out. My first night in the apartment the son in the house was having a party, he was 17 years old and was home alone. The boys had a lot of music playing (LOUD) and they where throwing things on my living room window and looking at me from the outside. I had just moved in so I didn't have anything to cower the window with and I was feeling really uncomfortable. I let the landlords know what was going on and they made a call to the boy who started shouting and yelling before they left the house. After that the partying was going on every weekend because the parents left the house and...

I root for all of you who’s searching to find yourself. But you all need to stop looking out there! What you really are looking for is the true you! Your natural way of being! There’s no alternative you, there’s only the person you have become after all those years denying your true spirit. Your spirit is not the part that believes in God, Allah or the all mighty.  Your spirit is your belief in yourself, and as we grow and deny ourselves what we really are searching for (a good and happy life) we lose touch with our true spirit!  If you see yourself as a universe, and that you create what’s in it! All that goes on in your universe only happens to you no one else! If you are angry at someone and curse them you are only hurting yourself, they don’t notice! The one you’re angry at has no idea that you are spending all this energy being angry and they are walking around totally unaware of your feelings and actions! You can call them ignorant towards your unive...

How do you get out of your own head and into a lighter, happier state of mind when you feel low and depressed?  From time to time people will find themselves in a low state of mind, there's a darkness around them that swallows all the light like the asphalt on a rainy night. How to get out of it is a skill that takes practice and dedication. It's so easy to just let the darkness swallow you and be passive feeling sorry for yourself, instead of forcing a happier thought into your head and actually taking responsibilities for how you're feeling. When you don't take responsibility for how you're feeling you can blame everyone and everything else. The whole world is to blame for how you are feeling and you are just a helpless victim.  Binge watching Netflix and bitching to everyone about your misery confirming to yourself that it's only getting worse and worse with time. Every time you talk about your misery in a non productive way, you add to your own misery a...

Being in a relationship with someone who's afraid of missing out afraid of not having the best. Someone who believes that someone else might be better for me, is this what I really want is this enough. What if that one can give me more children, more money, more prosperity. How do you survive in such relationship? Do you stay and work things out, do you convince this person that you are the one, nothing better can come to you. Do you constantly prove to this person that being grateful for what you  have will bring you more to be grateful for. Are you afraid of losing this person to another better version of you? All these questions have I been asking myself for the last few years being in a long distance relationship. I have seen it all, lies, cheating, stealing and convincing. There's so much work in a relationship that's "normal" why put in the extra effort in a long distance relationship. You have the power to end it all just by hanging up the phone...

What type of person are you, or what kind of person do you want to be? I ask myself this when I'm interacting with other people. Sometimes people come off as a little blurry so I don't really understand the person they are trying to display. They seem nice and gentle, but they are rough and hard in there voice. Some people are straight up what and who they show you, they don't have any secrets of sides they are trying to hide. Searching for something People are driven by a few things and the basic is certainty and uncertainty, seeking one or the other. You probably trying to figure out what drives you and it can be both, but at separate times. When your life is filled with uncertainty you are probably looking for something certain to hold on to. When life is straight forward and very secure you are probably looking for something uncertain to get your blood pumping and your heart racing. You need a balance in your life between the two to feel good and exited at the same...

Abundance is something most people search for, some people find, and some think they can never have ... If you take a look at your life you will find that abundance is all around you in places you didn't expect it to be. Even in birthdays there is abundance April is the month where half my family is born, we have 7 birthdays to celebrate from start to finish. There is some traveling distance between us and we go back and forth between each others houses all month. Whenever a friend ask me to do something in April, I have to say no because I have a birthday to go to that weekend. I love my family and I know that we all laugh at this month where we have the same amount of gift-shopping and celebration done as we do for Christmas. I am so lucky my birthday is last, that's when everyone is broke and tired of cakes and  I'm usually in Tobago this time of the year and haven't been with my family for my birthday for a long time. This year I asked everyone with an Apri...

It takes 21 days to make a habit I want you to make a mark on your calendar 21 days from the day you start with you new morning routine. And that of course is tomorrow morning.. Here's a few tips and some of my morning routines that now are a habit.  If I wake up to an alarm, I give myself 5 seconds to get out of bed. I can have the idea that I don't have to get up this early today I'm not going anywhere, but as soon as I close the alarm my mind is now programmed to start counting backwards from fiwe so I can't go back to sleep. 5-4-3-2-1 I'm up. Make your bed in the morning.  Be an action taker not a procrastinator and get things done right away. You will not believe the power this simple act has to the rest of your day. Tell your mind from the very start that you mean business and you make fast decisions and your mind will believe that you are someone who gets things done and will therefore support you. Give thanks.  Set the intention for the day an...

The law of attraction states that like attracts like  That’s why sometimes you get confusing results. The law only reflects back to you what’s on your mind or more correctly what’s on your heart.  Your current situation, your life as you know it today is a reflection of your past thoughts and actions. Right now, you can change your future life by changing your thoughts, beliefs and feelings.  Change your thoughts and change your life. Learn the skills of controlling your thoughts and emotions and The Law Of Attraction will give you the results that you want. This means is that whatever you are thinking and feeling is what is being attracted to you.  The LOA is impersonal and it does not respond to  good  things or  bad  things, or  no  or  not  it just attracts to you your dominant thoughts. It's the same with the law of gravity,  it does not matter if you are a good person or a bad person, if you jump o...