Life is in your hands

How do we grow as humans? What does it mean to grow? I believe that growth equals change, that in order for you to grow you have to make some changes. Not necessarily big changes but significant ones that you notice and can feel in your body. Like when you stop smoking, that's a change you feel for a long time. You are hunted by the nicotine monster for a long time after you've had your last cigarette. I have now been smoke-free for over a year, and just yesterday someone was passing me with a lit cigarette and I felt the need to ask for one. I didn't, because I'm supposed to be strong and a changed woman, but still that feeling of craving that cigarette sticks with me. And this is a change for the better, I am now healthier because I stopped smoking, so it's a good change. Change that you notice can also be if you change career or you get a divorce, that is also something you will feel for a long time and most of the time the things you feel the most and give...

Being in a relationship with someone who's afraid of missing out afraid of not having the best. Someone who believes that someone else might be better for me, is this what I really want is this enough. What if that one can give me more children, more money, more prosperity. How do you survive in such relationship? Do you stay and work things out, do you convince this person that you are the one, nothing better can come to you. Do you constantly prove to this person that being grateful for what you  have will bring you more to be grateful for. Are you afraid of losing this person to another better version of you? All these questions have I been asking myself for the last few years being in a long distance relationship. I have seen it all, lies, cheating, stealing and convincing. There's so much work in a relationship that's "normal" why put in the extra effort in a long distance relationship. You have the power to end it all just by hanging up the phone...

How to live in a long distance relationship. Some say it can't be done, it will never work and that is true for them. It's not necessarily true for you, it definitely wasn't true for me. There are many differences in a long distance relationship and keep in mind that one of you where in holiday mode when you met. That being said most people are different on holiday and in everyday life, so if you are the one who was traveling at the time this relationship started you are the one that changes the most when the distance is greatest. So when the other person is getting upset with you and telling you you are different or that you have changed, that is probably true without you being aware that it is. When on a holiday ad in the presence of the person you want to be with everything is relaxed and sweet. You have all the time in the world and you are just enjoying this state of mind and not considering that this will change as soon as you get your butt back home. You also h...